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The Truth About Assessments

The Truth about Assessments

By Elina Bagshaw

Let’s say you are experiencing some car trouble.

You take your car to the mechanic. Would you let the mechanic start randomly replacing parts? Or would you expect the mechanic to perform a series of diagnostic tests to determine the root of the problem?  

For most of us, we would expect the mechanic to take the time to diagnose the problem and provide workable solutions that fit both our time and budgetary needs.

The reality of course, is that the fixes may take too long for our liking or they don’t necessarily fit our budgetary needs.  Regardless, normally we would get the car fixed anyway.   

The truth

For most of us, without our car we would have a great deal of difficulty getting to work, getting groceries or doing any of the myriad of other travel required tasks that we use the car for every day.   

In other words, we would be scrambling to figure out how to get around without our car.

This brings me to education  

Without education in this day and age, it would be fair to say that we would be significantly disadvantaged as to what jobs are available to us, what opportunities we could take advantage of, how far up the corporate ladder we could climb or how large of a corporate ladder we could build.  

Education then is the foundation upon which we build our financial, social and cognitive lives

Interestingly, many of us go through school without coming even close to reaching our full potential.  

Our school grades may or may not reflect this.  As is often the case, there are holes in our knowledge — small or large, the ramifications can compound over time.   These cognitive gaps might be picked up by a teacher, or might not.  

Given that most classrooms today have at least 20 students, the odds that more than 1 or 2 areas of need are picked up are slim.

One of the best ways to identify these cognitive gaps is through a thorough diagnostic assessment  

The process to the student is straightforward enough that children from K to 12 can be assessed in 1 hour time chunks so as to maintain concentration levels and not skew the results.  

The end result is a thorough diagnostic and identification of the cognitive gaps that virtually every person has.   

Virtually everyone has educational knowledge gaps.
Despite what report cards may say

Like a new or used car, they and we are not perfect and need to be tuned up to work our best – to be the best we can possibly be. 

Take the time to get to the root of your child’s educational knowledge gaps with a thorough assessment.  Your child will benefit from a lifetime of cognitive improvement and you will have a true understanding of what strengths your child has and what areas need improvement. 

And isn’t that really what we want. 

If you know of anyone who would value this type of information, please feel free to forward this article to them.

 

Learn the Difference between Predicaments and Problems

Learn the Difference between Predicaments and Problems

By Elina Bagshaw

Starting at a very young age, our model of the world changes. Our model takes on more complexity with learning blocks developing silently in your child.   These learning blocks will ultimately prevent your child from being the best that they can be.

Labeling is just another form of classifying.

It is something we do with virtually everything. However, this is not necessarily what children need or want and it can often have life long repercussions.

Our school system has a tendency to label children who have learning challenges.   Labels such as shy, lazy, not working to their potential and so forth, can further intensify the child’s learning blocks, anxieties and fears, creating a progressively worsening situation.

For your child, being labeled in combination with their learning blocks can result in near paralysis whereby they may not be able to move forward in their life.

What a Winning Learning Formula actually is.

A Winning Learning Formula provides your child specific tools and techniques to excel in learning and life. Your child’s barriers to learning will be systematically managed and in some cases removed so that they will be able to succeed.

When we stop trying to find labels and start looking at management techniques to the symptoms shown by children, we begin down the right path to helping them.

Symptoms in your child can appear as:

  • Test Anxiety
  • Reading difficulties
  • Spelling challenges
  • General Anxiety
  • Procrastination/Motivation Issues
  • Frustration and Anger

 

Problems have solutions. Predicaments can only be managed.

Predicaments simply don’t have solutions. Problems on the other hand, do have solutions.

If your child’s symptoms are diagnosed as problems, often no solution is ever found. The experience will likely be frustrating and upsetting for both you and your child.

Interestingly, it is easier for the school system to diagnose your child’s symptoms as a problem and find a label.   Why? It takes time and resources to really understand what is going on — both of which are limited. Ironically, all too often a large amount of you and your child’s time and energy are wasted trying to find solutions to problems that are really predicaments.

Even more to the point

Tools and techniques are taught to the child to assist them in managing the situation. In most cases the child ends up better off than before with an understanding of who they are and what they can achieve. They will have the proper tools and techniques to deal with their anxieties, fears and learning blocks and they will have these tools for life.

A Winning Learning Formula is something that lasts a lifetime; it’s not just a catchy statement.

Every child, and in fact every human being needs a winning learning formula. Without it, they will not have a solid foundation upon which to build their professional and financial lives.

With the proper guidance, support and mentorship, a solution lies within the grasp of every child.

And isn’t that really what we want.

If you know of anyone who would value this type of information, please feel free to forward this article to them.

Is Fear Preventing You From Taking Action?

Is Your Fear Preventing You From Taking Action?

By Elina Bagshaw

I know that sometimes I start things and fall flat on my face.

What I am glad about is that I have learned to start projects that I do not feel totally ready for. I have learned to take on things that scare me to pieces. Today, I am excited by the challenge of something totally unknown. Truthfully, it wasn’t always like that.

Resistance is the friend that arrives when we’ve done it right.

If there is no resistance to what I am working on, I will often just be skirting around the periphery. Procrastination, avoidance, fear, excuse making and lack of motivation become part of the territory. They are there as part of the process and constant reminders that action is required — sooner than later.

Sometimes I fear these dragons will stop me from getting there — to the next step in my journey; to the next level of my understanding; to the next level of my learning. 

Now, it’s your turn to break through your fears about your child’s learning.

This brings me to your child’s learning needs. More often than not I see children who want learning help, but their parents are questioning, avoiding, procrastinating, resisting and making excuses to put off the day of reckoning: Decision Day.

Decision day can be a terrifying prospect for many. It’s the point at which you lay your cards on the table and more often than not, hope that you’ve got a winning hand. A winning hand that will not only help your child, but also make you look and feel like you’ve made the right choice in selecting your child’s learning team.

This is how to ensure a winning hand every time with your child — it takes 2 things.

Listen to your instincts. Your ‘old brain’, the part that handles very basic instincts and thoughts cannot translate feelings into words. It just instinctively figures out what will work and won’t. Listen to it. It used to let us know when to fight or run. Now it tells us whether to stay or walk away.

Listen to your child. Look through the lens your child is looking through (not your own). Imagine what they are thinking and needing. Looking beyond what you are thinking is absolutely necessary to see their situation from their perspective.

This is an important and courageous act and an absolute must for you to properly help them on their learning journey.

Notice when you loose connection with them. Notice when they begin to shut down. Notice when they light up and notice what reaction they have to what you say and also to how you listen.

When you are able to create this kind of empathic relationship with your child by looking at the world through as they see it, you will be able to see what the right choice is for your child.

And isn’t that really what we want.

If you know of anyone who would value this type of information, please feel free to forward this article to them.

The Secret Sauce To Deal With Your Child's Hidden Fears and Anxieties

The Secret Sauce To Deal With Your Childs Hidden Fears and Anxieties

By Elina Bagshaw

The importance of understanding

People often ask me, ‘What’s the secret sauce behind being constantly successful at eliminating learning challenges, anxieties, fears and behavioural issues with children?’

Here it is.

I have learned to see all interactions with children through the lens in which they look through (and not my own).

This has given me tremendous insight into knowing exactly what the child is thinking and most likely how they are going to react. Imagine if you were to know:

  • What to say and what not to say.
  • What will work and what will not.
  • What will engage them and not bore them to death.
  • What they need and want to be able to be successful at school and life.

 

This journey is as much your child’s as it is yours. Commit to asking yourself the following questions:

  • How will my child react?
  • How will they feel?
  • What will they think in reaction to what I am about to do right now?

Asking these questions can be a huge eye opener

Much of learning how to best help your child is at an unconscious level.

Every child that I work with, I take the time to look at the world through their eyes, from their perspective and their state of mind.

The right mindset and the importance of a bond

It takes the right mindset. It takes a non-judgmental mindset, a caring mindset and a courageous mindset to ultimately resonate with a child – your child.

When we are able to create this kind of bond with children, making them feel relaxed and comfortable to open up, it enables us to see the world through their eyes and into a place that was once closed off.

Ultimately, it enables the correct assistance to move the child beyond the fears, anxieties and learning blocks, to a new place.

A place where they can flourish! And isn’t that really what we want.

If you know of anyone who would value this type of information, please feel free to forward this article to them.